Over the last couple of days I’ve noticed something interesting. Have you ever noticed how quickly a perfectly good day can go completely south because of one small, annoying thing? Very rarely is this thing life-shattering or even vaguely important. A corrupted computer file. A nasty comment from a boss or coworker. All it has to be is small and unexpected. Just enough weird to just push you over the edge, and from that point on, the day is shot.
Most of us live a pretty comfortable existence. We have jobs and homes and healthy families. We have everything we need a a good bit of what we want. Why is it, then, that we are so prone to catastrophizing?
For one thing, we are a people lacking in perspective. Perhaps in the new age where everything is delivered to us on a screen, we’ve lost our grasp of the big picture. We can’t see the forest for the trees. If we can’t see the meaning of something within about nine seconds of its occurrence, we feak out.
We are also incredibly self-centered. We want what we want and we want it NOW. Preferably 10 minutes before we figured out we wanted it. Everything is supposed to go how we planned. “Um… yeah. I’ll take the wildly successful, but hold the adversity, please.”
Somehow are expectations are way off-kilter. When did we expect that things were always going to go our way and that we would never be mildly inconvenienced. Sure, it would be fantastic to live a charmed life, but that’s not realistic. Some people are nice. Some are not. Cars and computers break down. Lines get long. Tempers get short. It’s not a personal attack; it’s just the way things are.
How are we supposed to be overcomers if we’re too lazy to come over anything?
Next time we find outselves having “one of those days” about stuff that really doesn’t matter, maybe the trick is taking the blinders off, putting the small screen down and take a long, hard look at the bigger picture. You never know what you might see.